Love Blogs2020-05-20T19:11:42+00:00

Become the Perfect Partner

The person I became in a long-term love relationship was very different from the person I was while being single for 10 years. But I somehow knew this would be the case even when I was single. I spent 10 years really embracing being on my own. Yes, I had many relationships and flings along the way but I didn’t commit. Being in a committed relationship from the age of 13 really messed with my mind. That created a dependency within me that was extremely unhealthy. When this relationship ended, I was 22 years old and completely at a loss. It was the scariest time of my life. It was the first time I was alone. Wrong as it was, I never before left a relationship without another one waiting. So, for the first time, I decided to embrace my newfound freedom. Freedom to be me, whoever that was. Soon after that major break-up, I left for Hong Kong where I started my 10-year journey of self-discovery, self-awareness and self-love. I took that opportunity to prepare myself to be the perfect partner to my future husband. When I met “My One” at 32 years old, I was definitely ready. Here [...]

By |June 14th, 2020|Uncategorized|

3 BEST TIPS FOR SINGLE PARENT DATING!

These tried and true tips will take the guesswork out of how to handle dating as a single parent! Where and how to get started in the dating game after a breakup? Dating has changed since you were single, and so have you. When I was going through my own breakup and divorce and started building a new life for myself with my son, I asked myself - how can I make dating work, when and how to I tell my son there is someone else; and: and am I even ready? Let me help you to navigate the mindset of getting ready for the single-parent dating scene. 1. Knowing if you are ready. Everyone is different. Maybe you had checked out of the marriage years before the breakup or maybe it caught you by surprise. In my case, I needed time to heal from a very emotionally dysfunctional relationship. Whatever your situation, keep in mind two things. First, forgiveness and compassion towards yourself will go a long way to healing and moving on – with your heart intact. This includes taking the time to dig deep – and take responsibility for your part in the breakup, which can be [...]

By |June 14th, 2020|Uncategorized|

3 Things You Need To Let Go If You Haven’t Dated In A While

1. Past Resentment Hanging on to past perceived injustices may be blocking your ability to find love. How do you know if this is happening to you? You can start by asking yourself, a friend or a life coach or therapist if you often talk about or seem consumed by the tale of your past heartaches or relationship traumas. It is not easy to let this go. For many - the story of their traumatic relationship has become so anchored, they are not even aware that this story follows them everywhere, in many social situations. Think about this one – do you really want to always be associated with a negative story that no longer serves you and may be blocking your path to finding love? Start the process of letting go of the past by being gentle and compassionate with yourself as you feel those emotions, sit with them for the time you need. Then, before letting go of this old story - grab the GIFT of that lesson. What did you learn about yourself – the good and the bad? Embrace it all if you really want to move beyond it. If you are not entirely clear on [...]

By |June 14th, 2020|Uncategorized|

Six Women Share Their First Date Menswear Dealbreakers

Take it or leave it, boys 1. Acid washed/ artificially worn jeans Remember those loud, stiff and almost stripped-looking “worn” blue jeans? I, for one, wish I could forget them. The early 2000s were maybe a great time for you, but the rest of us have moved on to basic washes. When it doubt, black jeans are always classic. 2. Sneakers that you’ve kept too clean I like it when you use your shoes, instead of worshipping them. Exceptions include clean white sneakers, but if they’re so clean they seem to radiate their own light, you’ve gone too far. 3. “Funny” graphic tees, and loud details If you’re hoping your t-shirt’s joke will break the ice for you, consider letting your words send a message before your shirt does. Bonus! Go traditional with the accessories. For example, make a statement with your wit, not your belt. From big brass cowboy buckles to wide metallic modernism, steer clear of belts that are louder than you are. 4. Hats indoors Note: this doesn’t offend everyone, but if you’re looking to send a gentlemanly vibe, this is an old school rule you’d be surprised how many of us still pay attention to. P.s. tuques are passable, [...]

By |May 27th, 2020|Uncategorized|

The Case for Never Saying The Right Thing

In an era of app-facilitated speed dating, first impressions are vital. Because of this, in combination with our access to everyone’s intimate, if curated, daily life through social media, most of us have grown attuned to honesty— and we are, even subconsciously, evaluating it increasingly quickly. However: this is not to say the dating world is full of honest people; quite the opposite, as some of us know all too well. In fact, it is perhaps because of our increasing familiarity with dishonesty that we have come to fear any hint of it. most of us have grown attuned to honesty— and we are, even subconsciously, evaluating it increasingly quickly. This means behaviours are shifting, in more ways than we know, and the very traits we used to look for are changing, and in some cases, even becoming red flags. We are no longer looking for the person who says “the right thing”, like the characters in the classic movies we swooned through, but in fact, we’ve begun to think critically (at last!) about the messages we are being sent—and most importantly, about how they are being sent. As we get better at identifying dishonesty, we have also realized that couples work because they connect [...]

By |May 27th, 2020|Uncategorized|